Solitude

"Discover the profound insights of 'Solitude,' a blog that elegantly compares life to a piano, balancing the whites of happiness with the blacks of sadness. In our fast-paced world, the article explores solitude as a vital, self-chosen state of being, different from the often misunderstood loneliness. It emphasizes the rejuvenating power of solitude, chosen for personal growth and reflection, in contrast to the draining, imposed nature of loneliness. This piece invites readers to appreciate the significance of solitude in personal well-being, offering a perspective on solitude as a necessary and enriching aspect of life's journey."

Engr. Ervin Goh

9/27/20172 min read

Life is like a piano, where the white keys are the happiness and the black are the sadness. But as you go through life’s journey, remember that black keys make music too…

As the world spins faster and faster or maybe it just seems that way when an email can travel around the world in fraction of a second ¬, we mortals need a variety of a ways to cope with the resulting pressures. We need to maintain some semblance of balance and some sense that we are steering the ship of our life. Otherwise we feel overloaded, overreact to minor annoyances and feel like we never catch up, and enjoying, solitude.

A state of seclusion or isolation, solitude is the lack of contact with people. Shortterm solitude is often valued as a time when one may work, think or rest without being disturbed. It may be desired for the sake of privacy, while long-term solitude is often seen as undesirable, causing loneliness or reclusion resulting from inability to establish relationships. Solitude might want nothing more than to get away from everyone for a little while.

Solitude is a noun from old French solitude that means “loneliness”, and directly from Latin solitudinem (nominative solitude), the state of being alone in a lonely place and also from the root word solus, “alone”.

The word solitude carries the sense that you’re enjoying being alone by choice. Positive attitude is solitude often desired, negative solitude is often involuntary or undesired at the time it occurs.

Analyzing solitude is like defining loneliness. There is an important distinction and a world of difference between the two, though the two terms are often used interchangeably.

Loneliness is like a negative state marked by a sense of isolation. One feels that something is missing. The bitterest form of loneliness is that it is possible to be with people and still feel lonely. Solitude is the state of being alone without being lonely. It is a positive and constructive state of engagement with oneself. Solitude is desirable, a state of being alone where you provide yourself wonderful and sufficient company.

Solitude is not a punishment or rejection. It is not rooted in a sense of deficiency or adequacy. It is not something that depletes us, and it does not imposed on us. It is something we choose. It is something that restores and builds us up. It may stem from bad relationships, loss of loved ones, deliberate choice, infectious disease, mental disorders, neurological disorders or circumstances of employment or situation, but from these experiences, sufferings, or problems, these makes us.

Therefore, love your solitude and try to sing out with the pain it causes you for those who are near you are you far away and this shows that the space around you is beginning to grow vast. Loneliness is harsh, punishment, a deficiency state, a state of discontent marked by a sense of estrangement, an awareness of excess aloneness.

Solitude is something you choose. Loneliness is imposed on you by others. Solitude restores body and mind, loneliness depletes them.

We all need periods of solitude, although temperamentally we probably differ in the amount of solitude we need. Some solitude is essential, necessary, and integral; it gives us time to explore and know ourselves. It is the necessary counterpoint to intimacy and belonging, what allows us to have a self-worthy of sharing. Solitude gives us a chance to regain perspective. It renews us for the challenges of life.